الشفاء قد لا تأتي بسرعة، ولكن سوف يأتي
Healing may not come quickly, but it will come❞
Hi, baby doll.
As a woman who has had to come clean herself (more than once, even, after a relapse) I want to say first of all that I love you and I am proud as peaches that you’ve been living in victory for three weeks. I know it’s not easy. (But rest assured, it does get easier! You can do it!)
The best advice I can give you is to pray, pray, pray, and mindfully consider going to someone you trust, who knows you well enough to lovingly but firmly hold you accountable. The best people for accountability are people that can regularly check in on you, and who you would openly talk to about your struggles. (In my personal experience, it is good to consider older adults who are in your life as well as your peers. Many adults have excellent advice on dealing with big changes because they have lived through them.) The only hard advice I will give you is to be careful if you choose someone who is struggling as well to be your accountability partner. It’s not impossible, but it is hard to hold someone up if that is your weak area, you know?
Pornography addiction boils down to lust and control, and you are not the only woman who has struggled with those things. I know that it’s “not the norm” for a woman to talk about pornography addiction and the surrounding issues, but you would be surprised at how many women struggle and fight through it. I personally experienced an overflow of relief when I was honest with people about my struggles, and I have found an abundance of grace from others where I expected condemnation and shame.
God loves you dearly. Ask him to provide someone to help you along, and keep an open eye. God is always with you, and he is always speaking. He will always be there to give you what you need.
I am stopping right now to pray for you, lady. You’ll be on my heart.
Let us know if we can help you.
God bless you,
Tiffany at FDM
I’m very tired of seeing people that complain about wanting to be in a godly relationship and pursue Christ with someone and ~guard their heart~, etc, etc, also reblog pictures that aren’t quite hardcore porn, but are clearly people having sex.
I don’t care how artsy or ~soft grunge it is, I don’t care how lovely the intimacy looks,I don’t care how much it spices up your photography tag, if you do things like that you are setting your mind up terribly for a godly, Christlike dating relationship.
I’m not going to make a blanket statement about how everyone else’s brain works, but when I see things like that, it makes me crave physical intimacy in a less-than-healthy way. Purity is enough of a struggle for me without seeing reminders of what I’m “missing out on” on my dashboard. Hormones suck, a lot, but I’ve found I feel less, well, let’s be honest, thirsty when I cut out media that entails a lot of sexuality- and this includes what appears on my dashboard.
I know something like this probably seems very silly, uptight, and close-minded, but little things like this can pile up, one after another, pretty quickly. I didn’t struggle with sexual sin until I was eighteen, but all I needed was one catalytic relationship for it to all come crashing down on my head, and suddenly, all the intimacy and sexuality I had been thinking about and dwelling on since high school became a lot harder to deal with.
I’m still fighting the repercussions.
I’m still losing those battles as often as I am winning them.
My challenge to you is to avoid having pictures or text discussing sex on your dash as little as possible, and avoid reblogging them when they do come up. It won’t kill you to try it, and it just might benefit you a whole lot.
Please trust me on this one.