Today at Aletheia the sermon was on Jesus’s encounter with the woman at the well in John 4, and I spent the entire service crying. And I don’t mean “sitting there gracefully with my head held high and a single tear rolling down my otherwise pristine face” crying. I mean “sitting there downright weeping with my head in my hands and makeup all over my face and trying not to be audible” crying.
But for the first time in my life, I wasn’t crying because I was the woman at the well.
I was crying because I was the faithful disciple.
"The God of the universe, He sees your striving, He sees your brokenness, and He has come for you.”
I’ve debated for a long time on whether or not I should write about this, but perhaps this can be used for God’s glory in the lives of one of you young men or young women. So my prayer in sharing my story is that the dangers of this multi-billion dollar industry will be recognized and that you will heed to my warnings to avoid it at all costs, being constantly in prayer and relying upon the Lord for His grace in overcoming temptation.
Porn is damaging. I know this has been said hundreds of times, but I feel so much that many of you young, unmarried people don’t really actually realize how damaging this can be, especially in regards to intimacy with your future spouse, and the unfortunate thing is many of you won’t heed to these warnings and won’t realize the damage done until you are married.
I’ve been praying for you and will continue to pray for you. I’m so sorry to hear you’re struggling with this.
One thing I want to address right away— it is not worse because you’re a girl. Sin isn’t gendered, and we’re all prone to wander and fall into its trap. Darling, you are no “worse” than anyone else dealing with this habit just because of your gender, and I promise you you’re not the only woman dealing with this. It’s much more common than you know, I promise.
I just want to remind you that Christ is everything and He can redeem us from any sin, any addiction, any ensnarement we’ve been caught in. He is so much more powerful than what you’re struggling with, love. You just need to trust Him with this.
It’s a hard battle, I know. But you can’t give up! You have to flee from this. Don’t entertain thoughts of anything that tempts you to fall prey to this again. Fight this with every cell in your being. The Lord loves you more than I can put into words and wants to draw near to you, but as long as you have this idol set before Him, there will always be something missing.
Abide in Christ. Cling to Him and He will fight off the hold this sin has on your life, I promise.
With much love,
Masturbation is classified under sexual sin. If you’re looking for a direct verse from the Bible specifically talking about pleasuring yourself, I can’t tell you that you’ll find one.
For example, Matthew 5:28 states: “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Masturbation typically requires a fantasy, porn, etc. That is a blatant sin.
God created sex so that we could give ourselves wholly to the one we are married to. So if you’re masturbating, you’re not giving, only receiving. Sex between a married couple is a gift given to one another, and if you’re doing it to yourself, it’s due to selfish nature, which is condemned in the Bible.
Those who belong to Christ have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires (Galatians 5:24). We’re called to keep our hearts and minds in check and free from sins of the flesh. Though it isn’t directly mentioned in Scripture, masturbation is still a sin. However, it is able to be overcome and able to be forgiven if repented of.
Praying for you!
and nothing can make them stumble."